My Partner Had An Affair
I specialize in helping individuals heal from the pain and hurt caused by betrayal and infidelity in relationships. I understand that the journey to restoring trust and finding love again can be challenging, but I am here to support and guide you every step of the way, by providing personalised support to help you overcome trust issues, begin the process of healing, and help you to take steps to move forward.
Discovering that a partner has had an affair can be utterly crushing.
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The one person who should make you feel safe, loved and supported is the very person to betray your trust, and suddenly the months, years, or even decades that you have invested into making a life with them can feel like a lie.
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In the aftermath of the discovery, it is common to ricochet violently between a range of emotions - from shock and horror through to despair and depression.
But often, that's not all we experience; we also may feel rage, bitterness, jealousy and a sense of hatred - all deeply toxic emotions that if left unchecked can do long term harm... meaning that it's not just the act of the affair that is able to hurt us, but the additional consequences that echo loudly for long after we learn the news.
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Additionally, many of us try to justify or even endorse the behaviour of our partner; looking inwards to find blame in ourselves for their choices. We panic, we implore our partner to stay, we try to forgive and move on; but without necessarily repairing the damage to the relationship, and most importantly, the damage it has done to our wellbeing.
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An affair can also do extraordinary damage to our ability to trust, and therefore, challenges our ability to enjoy healthy relationships in the future. This means that not only has our partner ruined the relationship we had with them, but if the harm they did is left unhealed, it could even damage our opportunities for happiness with others.
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I work with my clients to help rebuild their self-esteem, to re-frame their narrative and to move forwards in a positive and healthy direction. I help them to unpack their feelings and make sense of the new world they find themselves in.
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If you have recently learned of your partner's infidelity, or perhaps you've been trying to deal with the impact of their choices for some time but you're struggling to move on from the hurt that they have caused, then I'd like to be able to help you.
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I offer a safe, non-judgemental and completely confidential environment in which to examine your feelings surrounding this betrayal, and provide you with guidance and support. Together, we can devise a plan of action to help you take steps forward into the next happier, healthier chapter of your life.